If you can’t go to the person who wronged you with a heart that is ready to forgive, desiring to restore the fellowship that was broken by the offense, then you need to first ask God to forgive your self-righteous pride before you make matters worse. Be sure, too, that the act for which you confront your brother is really a cause for offense. It could be that the real problem is not what he did, but your own wounded pride. Would God consider what happened a trespass against you, or was it merely something you did not like? … If it does not involve a violation of Scripture, it should probably be overlooked in love.

Paul W. Downey, More Than Spectators, (Greenville, SC: Ambassador Emerald, 2002), 172.